It's not an easy Journey - My Journey to finding a job and my constant failure on the to Success

This journey to finding my true professional calling, lured me back into the hands of recruiters and job boards.

Job searching has been one of the most challenging experiences of my life. The endless cycle of applications, the hopeful anticipation, followed by the crushing disappointment of rejection – it’s been a rollercoaster of emotions. Sharing my journey, I hope to shed light on the struggles many of us face and how I’ve managed to find strength and growth amidst the constant setbacks.

When I first started my job search, I was filled with excitement and optimism. I meticulously updated my resume, crafted tailored cover letters, and eagerly sent out applications. Each job posting felt like a potential gateway to a new beginning, and I was confident that my skills and experience would soon land me a role.

However, reality set in quickly. My inbox began to fill with automated rejection emails, and worse, complete silence from many companies. The initial excitement faded into frustration and self-doubt. I questioned my abilities and wondered if I was ever going to find a job that appreciated my talents.

For almost ten months I heard crickets. Now was emailing me or calling. No was interested in what I had to offer.

And it broke me. I’d never been in that situation since this journey began. The Journey to finding a job was never difficult. As a matter of fact it never really existed. I always moved from one job to the other, recommended by colleagues, former managers. Never in a place where I really needed anybody’s favour, recommendation, reference. I was very good at what I did, and… it was enough.

So now, not only it wasn’t enough, I started doubting everything about myself. About my professional accomplishments, my social skills and even my parental skills. Everything was piled up under one tag – incompetent. everything in my life was labeled "failure". Small progress was ignored, and success seemed like something others had. not me.

One day, a very hot and humid day, while walking the dog I felt I needed to wake myself and I needed to do it fast. I needed to stop blaming the world and everyone I knew and find the issue or issues in my modus operandi – in my application process. Something was wrong, and it was my fault, and my fault alone.

I worked on improving my CV with a help of a very nice recruiter, I only applied to jobs that were post up to twenty-four hours before. I was on fire.

And very soon I started getting emails that weren’t the usual “No-reply” ones I had been getting for the past ten months.

I started having several interviews; in most cases talking to the recruiter was as far as I got. But there were occasions where I made more progress, even to the point of having several on-site interviews.

But nothing brought me the “oh so needed” offer.

I am still there, clawing my way up this ditch I put myself in. every day telling myself I will get out of it and will find my path. Wondering if and how I could build my own business, to do it on my own, to serve only my business and my customers, and then I fall back into the arms of the promised lands – a steady job and a happy bank account.

But regardless of my decision and my next steps, my hope it that people that make decisions about other people’s lives (e.g. hiring managers, HR recruiters, etc.) will be kinder. If you have three people on your shortlist, after choosing the one for your role, don’t forget the other two. And no, they won’t “just assume” the role isn’t theirs if you hadn’t contacted them. They deserve your update; they don’t just need it.

I know it’s too much to ask to let them know why they weren’t picked for the role. Just be kind. And always, always, put yourselves in the shoes of the person you are interviewing.